Truth Bomb Tuesday: There’s free energy waiting for you.
So imagine you go into an ice-cream shop with a 6-year-old boy. He tells you he wants the cookies and cream in a waffle cone. He’s very clear about that.
Then the girl behind the counter asks you what the little boy wants.
And then you say, “Oh it doesn’t matter. Whatever’s easiest.”
Maybe you put getting an A+ in customer above getting the kid what he wants.
Or maybe you say, “Oh, I don’t really remember now. It was something about ice-cream. Maybe caramel?”
You don’t hold a clear picture in your mind. You think near enough is good enough.
Or maybe you say, “He’d like a kale salad,” because you’ve heard that people admire people who order kale salads.
The point is there are a number of ways that you could betray that child’s desires, just as there are hundreds of ways that we betray our own desires every day.
We never own them. We skirt around the edges at best. We outright deny they exist at worst.
At any rate, whatever you do, imagine how betrayed that little boy feels now. He was relying on you to speak up for his desires. He was relying on you to help make them happen.
But you didn’t. And now he’s hurt and angry.
Now imagine trying to get that boy to help you on a project.
Imagine asking him to help you stay up and research deals. Imagine asking him to put the time in and get your taxes sorted. Imagine asking him to put in some over time so you can save up a deposit that little bit quicker.
How much cooperation are you going to get?
How much sulking are you going to get?
If you want buy-in from that little boy (or girl) – and I’m talking about your own inner child here, the one who holds the keys to free emotional power – if you want buy-in from that child they need to know that there’s desires are faithfully represented.
They need to know that if they’re being asked to work hard, there’s at least a theoretical chance that they’ll get what they want and that they’ll be allowed to be happy.
They need to know they’re desires are understood. (Can you articulate clearly and specifically what it is that you want and what makes you happy?)
And they need to know that you will go into bat for their desires when the time comes. (What are you doing this week to make yourself happy?)
Without that, the child gets resentful.
And try getting a resentful child to do anything, let alone anything hard like taxes or researching deals.
Connect with your desires. Own your desires. Advocate for your desires.
This is what unlocks energy in your life.
DB.