Truth Bomb Tuesday: Time to flip this paradigm on its head.
Anger is the key to abundance.
Ok, we’re a little down the rabbit hole here. This is not your introductory class in money mindset.
But hear me out. It’s true. Anger is the key to abundance.
So to start with, think about what anger is.
Anger is the energy you need to fight for what you believe is right.
That’s what anger is. When you get tipped into anger, what you are feeling is your body rallying the resources you need to fight for what you believe is right.
And that doesn’t necessarily mean abstract concepts like ‘justice’ or ‘human rights’, although it can include those things.
If a toddler believes it should have exclusive access to the sandpit’s Tonka truck, and someone else starts playing with it, they will get angry.
As immature as their boundary is, their boundary has been crossed, and the body releases the energy of anger.
And so that’s what anger is. And it’s why I say that anger isn’t a bad thing. Unhinged, destructive expressions of anger are bad, but anger itself isn’t bad. It’s a fundamentally important source of energy and drive.
Ok, with me so far?
Now, what happens when we develop a healthy relationship to anger?
Very few people do this. We’re taught to be afraid of our anger, and to smother it away and to never let it breathe.
But what would happen if you could overcome generations of conditioning and have a healthy relationship to anger?
If you could have a relationship where anger is allowed to rise and live in the body, without being shamed or shut down? A relationship where the energy of anger is harnessed and channelled into productive and constructive outlets?
What happens then?
Well, many wonderful things happen. You have tapped a potent internal energy source.
(Hands up if you don’t need more energy?)
But when you have a healthy relationship to anger – when you have an energy that will fight to defend your boundaries – you become more confident in your boundaries.
When you offer a ‘no’ to the world, you offer that no with confidence, because you know you have the anger to stand behind your boundaries.
When we don’t have access to the anger needed to defend our boundaries, we have less confidence in them. We fear that our boundaries will be crossed, and we won’t be able to defend them – because the energy that is used to defend them has been smothered into weakness.
And if that happens, that puts us in a defensive position. Without confidence in our boundaries, we become fearful of situations where our boundaries might be tested.
We meet the world with fear.
But if we have a healthy relationship to anger, and we have confidence in our ability to defend our boundaries, then we are more willing to take risks.
Someone wants to work on a joint venture with you? Sure, why not. Let’s try. I can always exit down the road because I know I can stand by what I believe in. I have the anger I need to do that.
When you have access to your anger, you are more willing to meet the world and see what it has to offer.
And being willing to see what the world has to offer is the first step in abundance thinking.
DB.