T-Bomb: The most toxic idea out there

Truth Bomb Tuesday: Be direct. Be clear. “I just wish my hubby was more affectionate.” “You don’t think he loves you?” “Oh no. He loves me. I know he loves me. He’s just not very touchy. I just wish he was more affectionate.” “What happens when you ask him to be affectionate?” “When I what?” […]

T-Bomb: Escaping a ‘culture of wrong’

Truth Bomb Tuesday: A simple framework for de-escalating conflict “In the end, I lost it at my husband, threw the loaf of bread at him and said ‘Stop trying to change me! I’m sick of feeling like I’m wrong all the time!” And he said, ‘That’s exactly how I feel! I feel like you’re always […]

T-Bomb: Where real joy comes from

Truth Bomb Tuesday: Life starts when we take off our masks You are nowhere near as clever as you think you are. Actually, you are probably more intelligent than you think you are, but you are not as clever – you can’t fool us as well as you think you can. Many of us spend […]

T-Bomb: How to be really radical

Truth Bomb Tuesday: Don’t let the dishes hold you back from happy. “The dishes are never done.” There are two types of people in the world. The first hear a statement like this and tumble into depression. The other hear this and feel liberated into joy. (Ok, maybe I’m overselling it a bit.) But the […]

T-Bomb: How to be desire-driven

Truth Bomb Tuesday: There’s two ways of moving. But they’re really just two sides of the same coin. There’s something hiding behind every fear you have. It’s the desire for something beautiful. Fears don’t exist in a vacuum. We’re not afraid of things for their own sake. It’s about what we stand to lose if […]

T-Bomb: What you get wrong about emergencies

Truth Bomb Tuesday: We were actively designed to be irrational about threats like this. I was trading messages with a friend of mine. She lives in the hills outside Byron Bay. They had some epic floods earlier in the year, and last week they got quite a bit of rain. Around 2 a.m on Friday […]

T-Bomb: How to make happiness stay

Truth Bomb Tuesday: Happiness is hard to find and even harder to hold. Have a guess. How much happiness do you think you can handle at time? 3 hours? 8 hours? 12 hours? Nup. Scientists have measured it. Want to know how much happiness the average person can handle? 4 seconds. That’s it. Maybe if […]

T-Bomb: Why I don’t want to be remembered

Truth Bomb Tuesday: If your motivation is a eulogy, you’ll never get far. “After you die, how do you want to be remembered?” I was filling out some interview questions for a glossy magazine a while ago. They were doing a special on ‘Women in Business’ and they were giving me a run. The questions […]